Sexually unfulfilling marriages are not limited to new parents or aging baby boomers with hormone imbalances, according to various marriage experts. They can ensnare even the relatively young and the recently married. When they are unable to blame kids, stress or physical issues, many couples struggle unhappily to identify and resolve the problems behind their lackluster sex life. Couples end up in sexually unfulfilling marriages for a variety of reasons, says Marty Klein, a licensed marriage counselor and certified sex therapist in Palo Alto, California. One reason, he says, is America’s obsession with marriage.
Laura Berman, a Chicago sex therapist and relationship expert, agrees. “We put the blinders on when we’re dating,” she says. “We focus so much on the wedding, we don’t notice the warning signs.”
Those who believe passion inevitably fades may downplay the sex factor, picking someone they think would be a good father or a good wife even if they’re not an ideal lover, Berman adds.
“I chose her because I thought it would enhance me in some way,” Jon says of his wife.
Berman has seen it before: “People choose partners who have the right resume but maybe not the entire package.”
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